Thursday, May 17, 2012

Recharged - 1

Too many negative posts recently… Is time for some positive intake.
(thank you for “bearing” with me, faithful readers)

Was smiling away and encouraged at the recent home visit and Parent-Teacher-Meeting. Definitely charged up after the sharing of the parents.

Child CS
Though not so at home but Child CS is a verrrrrry quiet boy in school.
Hardly hear him. Hardly see him mingling with friends.
Not vocal so when teachers post a question, the teacher must either go real near to him or to wait for him to nod/shake his head.

Though he often look like he is “not with us” but he is definitely listening. There were few times when I asked the children to bring items like kinder joy wrapper or tissue box, he was the first few to bring.
But interestingly he wont dare to take out on his own. There were once I saw him smiling as he peeked into his bag. When I asked him, he smiled and remained quiet. A while later then I saw him doing the same but this time with the kinder joy wrapper on his hands. 

Due to his skin problem, he felt inferior among his friends.
No one knows when he started feeling this way?
Could it be his low self-esteem that affects his behavior in school?

From his mummy’s sharing…
In the early days, he was upset that his friends dislike him and said that the spots on him are poisonous.

Friend D had been spotted by me few times when he shunned away from Child CS and sometimes his action caused other friends to think/behave so. Though Child CS didn’t show but I know he was affected.
 
So there was one day I couldn’t take it anymore - I sat everyone down and gave a good long naggy lecture and explained about the spots.
Next I gave Child CS a hug to “prove” to everyone.
Just before I end, I got Friend D to touch Child CS. 

Ever since then, no one make fun of Child CS.
Friend D never shuns away from him too.
And I’m surprised that recently they became good friends. 
 
During then, there wasn’t any reaction on Child CS so I thought probably he didn’t feel much but in the recent home visit I realized he actually shared this with his mummy and glad that Miss Lim made that move and to know his friends no longer mind his spots.

The most encouraging…
Glad to know my effort paid off, really off.

A period last term, Child CS was hospitalized thus was absent for few weeks. Before our visit @ hospital, I took and printed a picture of his classmates. I also got them to sign at the back of the self-made card. 

From his mummy’s sharing…
Looking at words on the card, Child CS asked his mummy “Why my friends miss me?“ Mum shared that it probably could be that throughout his kindergarten years, he never felt belong in the class and maybe he feels that none of his friends no
tice him or want to be his friend.

Mum explained further when Child CS spotted one missing friend in the pix, mummy asked Child CS whether he will miss that friend when she is absent, Child CS said “yes”. Mum told him that likewise, when he is absent, his friends miss him too.

The card + friends’ autograph + knowing he been missed SHOCK him big time. Mummy said that this could be the “breakthrough”, where he started to break the wall he been building around his friends and realized he was someone in the class.

Probably this explains the little change I observed in the late Term 2?

He smiles more.
He giggles more, especially when his friends do funny stuff. You could see he very much want to join but don’t know how.
First time in the two terms, Child CS was seen with friends! Though still no conversation but at least there was interaction and most importantly could see that he is happier. 

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